Ok I’m just going to say it, being married is weird. Its nice, but weird. Is that just me? Perhaps its because I have only been married for a week. But that’s ok, right? Overall, I love it. I love being in the same city and country as my husband. That’s a huge plus. I know Moses and I are still in “Honeymoon” phase but we are truly happy and blessed to have each other.

One the reasons I think marriage is weird, is because of the concept of two becoming one. We have not been together this close before so we have to put in the work. Just making his house my home is physical work but also changing our mentality. He comes home there is someone else. Making copies of keys, making space for my stuff. Talking about dinner plans, communicating schedules and to-do lists. The “me” needs to change to “us.” Its refreshing and challenging.

Two becoming one, its hard. It’s a constant act of thinking and putting someone else first. I knew that before I signed up to marry Moses. Now I need to make it a habit. Another complexity to all of this is that I am in a different country and different language. I feel like a kid. Yes, I lived here before. I remember some of the language, but I am still learning. I need to talk my (his) family. Also, the city has changed so much. I don’t know where anything is anymore.  

Culture shock is real, but also so is being married. Moses had been so gracious and patient helping me navigate through all of this. I know there are several people out there who have married cross culturally who understand what we are going through. Two becoming one for us right now is me becoming more Ugandan, because that’s where we are. It will take time. However, if/when we ever go to the states, Moses will feel the same. I’m not losing who I am, I am growing into becoming a Ugandan wife. Or honestly, a wife in general. I am gaining skills and knowledge.

Its hard because its humbling. I need help. Help is there is many ways through family, friends, and my husband.  Its hard for me to swallow my pride and admit I need help. I pray that through all of this I become a good wife. Moses is experiencing the same things. Looking out for me, caring for me. Always checking on me. We are slowly becoming The Moros. Marriage is a lot of work. It’s a learning curve and its all worth it.

Until next time,

-Mar